Has your relationship lost that zing? Do you no longer feel like you're one of those 'intimate couples'? What do they do on a day-to-day basis? Is it all just about great sex?
Intimate couples smile often and speak sweetly to each other.
They express kindness even when they clash.
They share hands, share their dreams, share gentle cuddlings and hugs.
They say "I love you" and "It’s good to see you!" not only with words, but with their eyes and with small little gestures of attention and care.
But let’s talk about you.
You still remember the time when you were dating or maybe just newly married...
Perhaps you've experienced the fear of intimacy, but the infatuation, the love, the excitement you used to have made you want to know everything you could about your loved one, right? But after a few months (or years) of being together - you became bored...
You got stuck in a rut: same routine day after day. After a while, your relationship have became dull and lifeless.
Why is it that you and your loved one (like so many other intimate couples) have forgotten the affectionate gestures of intimacy? Why is it that you’ve became estranged? Can it be because you’ve became too comfortable with each other? Can it be because you've taken each other for granted?
Do you expect intimacy to naturally be a part of your lives and automatic?
It never works that way! Believe it or not, intimacy is something that needs to be nurtured and grown. Like anything else worth having, intimacy requires conscious thought.
No matter what you may read somewhere else, intimate couples focus on being a team. It just makes sense, doesn’t it?
If you’re like most people, you may find that it’s more convenient or comfortable to pursue your own goals - professionally and personally - while neglecting the goals that you have as a couple. Or, you simply haven't learn how to function as a team.
But if you want to go beyond the 'power struggle' stage and be in a blissful relationship, there’s something you need to understand.
When you bring your partner into your life as much as you can and she does the same, the two of you will create a special bond that will sustain intimacy and romance for the whole life span of your relationship. Consult with each other as much as possible. Don’t assume your woman is not interested in something that’s happened at work - she is.
As many intimate couples do, you must uncover your own selves to each other. It’s the opposite of distance or standing apart. You share with each other your dreams, insecurities, and triumphs. Your first thought is "How will this affect us?" vs. "How will this affect me?"
Forget about cheap soap operas: "Sex and Suffering in the Afternoon"... Pathetic!
In reality, intimacy is different than sex. And much more. You can have sex without intimacy AND you can have intimacy without sex.
If you only remember one thing about intimacy, remember this. Intimacy is about being so close that you know how your woman thinks and can feel what your woman feels. You've taken the time to understand women in relationships and understand why your lady reacts the way she does.
You care as much about her as you do about yourself.
Like all intimate couples, you know each other inside and out, the good and the bad, the beautiful and the unsightly. Intimacy is about both of you being comfortable with that not-so-beautiful mole, how she looks without makeup, and how you look with less (or no) hair.
Intimacy is about you knowing what hurts her and about her knowing what touches you. It is about what excites, irritates, motivates, inspires you both, and infinitely more things.
The bottom line is this.
Intimacy is the thrill, the warmth of even a casual touch... Intimacy is wanting to share every moment, every event, and every experience with your soulmate. True intimacy defies words, but you will know it when you have it!
So you want to regain the closeness you once had and get out of your rut. How? Try new things together, ask - again - magical questions for couples to rediscover each other, learn how to spice up relationships and the secrets of better love making.
It’s true, you won’t always be at full throttle all of the time. But you can be one of those happy, intimate couples that share the most precious thing in a long-term relationship: complete closeness and intimacy.
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